大學裏，你的室友可能你們來自不同的'地方，有不同的生活理念，有不同生活方式，你們互相適應得還好嗎？有沒有同學爲如何和室友友好相處煩惱不已，會不會室友所做的有些事情令你煩惱不已，而你有不知道如何處理。今天我們就來說說在怎麼解決和室友的生活衝突。
You will most likely have a least one time in your college career where your roommate will do something that either frustrates or upsets you, maybe even consistently. If you bring it up the first time it bothers you in an appropriate manner, the chances of the issue being resolved automatically increase a bunch! With that, here’s my take on how to deal with a roommate confrontation.
FIRST, ASK NICELY
If you go at them like you’re going to rip their head off, it’s probably gonna end badly. The first time you catch something that is bothersome, simply ask them to do it differently. Example – “hey, can you put your dishes in the dishwasher next time you walk in the kitchen? That would really help me out when I’m cooking later!”
DON’T TAKE FOREVER TO DISCUSS YOUR CONCERNS
Aka, don’t wait an entire semester to approach them with whatever is bothering you! It will be counterproductive to start up a new semester saying “So, last semester it drove me nuts when you never took out the trash…let’s work on that this semester.” They will undoubtedly ask you why you didn’t say something earlier.
NOW, HAVE A SIT DOWN
A calm one, at that. Just be like “Hey, can I talk to you about something really quick! It’s not a big deal, I just wanted to ask a favor of you!” Lay out exactly what you’re having a problem with and be clear in why it troubles you.
AVOID GOSSIPING TO OTHERS
This one is a biggie. Just avoid this, because if your roomie catches wind that you’re talking about her “bad habits” or how “annoying she is,” then I can promise you absolutely nothing will get resolved. If anything, it will only make the tension between the two of you worse.
OFFER UP A SOLUTION AND SAY THANK YOU
Also very important. Don’t have a sit down without having a way to resolvve the issue. If for some reason you can’t think of one, ask them for their thoughts or if there’s something you can do to help as well. Oh, and say thank you in regards to them being willing to sit down and hear you out! Thank you’s always make a big difference in the long run!
HIGHLIGHT THEIR STRENGTHS
It sucks to have someone sit you down and tell you something you’re doing (whether intentionally or not) is bugging them to no end. After you talk about what is upsetting you, make sure to highlight something you appreciate about them or that they’re doing right…”Thanks for keeping the living room clear of your things after you’re done studying, but is there any way you could vacuum a little more often! It’ll lessen the load for us both!”
IF IT CONTINUES, APPROACH THE HOUSEHOLD (IF APPLICABLE)
This is only if you live with more than one person. Because if something is affecting you, then it might be affecting the rest of your household too. Have a “house meeting” instead of a roommate meeting, and follow the same steps I discussed above!
