Failure
Why are so many people afraid of failure? Quite simply because no one tells us how to lead failure experience to forget that failure is part of life and that every person has the right to fail.
Most parents work hard at either preventing failure or protecting their children from it. One way is to lower standards. A mother describes her child's hurriedly-made table as "perfect!" even though it couldn't stand on uneven legs. Another way is to shift blame. If John fails the exam, his teacher is unfair or stupid.
The trouble with failure-prevention methods is that they leave a child unequipped for life in the real world. The young need to learn that no one can be best at everything, no one can win all the time it's possible to enjoy a game even when you don't win. A child who's not invited to a birthday
party or enrolled in the baseball team feels terrible, of course. But parents should not offer a quick comfort prize or say, "It doesn't matter" because it does. The young should experience disappointment and master it.
Failure is never pleasurable. It hurts grown-ups and children exactly alike. But it can make a positive contribution to your life once you learn to use it. Step one is to ask, "Why did I fail?" Control the natural impulse to blame someone yourself what you did wrong, how to improve. If someone else can help, don't be shy about asking them.
失敗
爲什麼那麼多人都害怕失敗?原因很簡單：沒人告訴我們該如何讓失敗的經歷促進成長，Failure(失敗)，四六級寫作《Failure(失敗)》。我們忘記了，失敗是人生的一部分，每個人都有失敗的權利。
很多家長竭盡全力阻止失敗或保護自己的孩子免受失敗。一方面，他們降低了要求。孩子匆匆忙忙做的.小桌子，即使桌腿都不平，媽媽也會誇獎說“太棒了!”。另一方面，他們把過錯轉嫁給別人。如果約翰考試不及格，那麼他的老師一定是不公平的或愚蠢的。
這些避免失敗的措施有很大的弊端，他們會使孩子對真實世界裏的生活毫無準備。年輕人需要學會，沒有人會處處領先，時時成功—即使失敗了，也同樣能夠從遊戲中
